I’m 19 female and he’s 17 male.
Months and months ago a boy reached out to me,
He thought I was attractive and I thought the same of him.
He must have known my age before hand because it was in my bio.
We were getting along and he was the type of person that energy just flowed, it didn’t feel forced and we had similar interests etc then I asked him how old he was.
He said 17 I was shocked because he did look older but that doesn’t justify it, he also said “but I’m really tall” to try make me feel better?😭
It felt more morally incorrect because I knew he was still in school and I wasn’t.
So after expressing I was uncomfortable with it he said could we try again in a year? And I said sure because I just wanted to keep talking to him as we had similar interests and again the conversation was flowing so I thought why not.
But then the thing that makes me feel really guilty now is months after we had the conversation about how I was uncomfortable with it I decided to reach out.
I guess I just wanted to see where things could have gone and I didn’t want to wait the year to find out which I regret now.
He was happy i got back in contact with him and he told me he was planning to message me every month to let me know he’s still waiting on me which is sweet.
We began talking and i ended up getting caught up with my studies and became less and less interactive with him but i still let him know it’s nothing to do with him.
Time went on and we had planned to meet up over the summer but then he just kind of got dry back to me after I’d started texting more frequently.
I brought up how I was feeling and he was like I’ll do better and then left me on delivered for 2 days so I just removed him and we never spoke again, I’m not really sure what happened.
But that’s just some insight into the relationship the main thing I want to ask is was it bad to do the age gap. I felt bad about it and he always tried to reassure me but I just don’t know I feel guilty and definitely not something I’d ever do again because it didn’t feel right on my conscience. I also can’t remember when his birthday was and I removed him on Snapchat so I can’t check and do the maths unfortunately.