u/NoCut8130

okay i started dating my boyfriend when i was in final year of my btech. both of us weren't earning appudu, so all the bills were majorly split or if its a small amount any one of us would pay. now i got into an internship, hes still unemployed. and he started depending on me for everythinggg. i think twice to buy oka expensive lipbalm for my self. but he made it my responsibility to look after his expenses. all the dates are on me. last ki i have to pay for his cigarettes also. like it doesnt mean i don't love him, but depending on me for everything feels lil weird, he goes on trips with his boys, buys expensive shoes and all with his (or maybe his parents) money. atlantappud why should i pay for all the dates anipisthundi. should i confront, or just keep ignoring this. i just want a different perspective on this anthey.

soo btech aipothundi, ala random ga paatha memories anni flash ayyaayi, so thought of sharing.

i got into my first relationship in 12th. let’s call him A. appudu everything felt perfect. he was nice, caring, full attention ichese type. naku kuda adhi chala pedda thing laane anipinchindi. typical first love phase.

btech ki ochaka everything started changing. different colleges, different circles… and slowly A original colours bayata paddayi. too possessive, too jealous, every small thing ki issue. like literally suffocating. first lo adjust avvalani try chesa but it just kept getting worse. we were on and off for months and finally it ended. mutual ane ankunnam, but honestly both of us were just tired.

ah time lo i met B. we started talking, just normal conversations, nothing serious. but somehow A got to know about him even though we weren’t talking anymore. appude real drama start aindhi.

A literally went to B and said “she’s mine, don’t talk to her.” like bro?? nen edaina object ah. and that wasn’t enough, he started blackmailing me saying mana photos me intlo chupistha if you continue talking to him ani. that was the point where i was like okay this guy is actually messed up.

cut to 2nd year, B and i started dating. things were going fine. but again A couldn’t stay out of it. he went to my brother and complained that i was roaming with some guy and that B isn’t a good person. like the obsession??? luckily my brother was chill and didn’t make it a big deal.

fast forward to 4th year, i’m single, peaceful, and honestly so much happier. looking back, i can’t believe i put up with all that for so long.

things i learnt:
don’t confuse possessiveness with love, it’s just control
if someone has to threaten you to stay, they’re not worth it
no relationship is worth losing your peace
walking away is sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself

anyway that was my little clown era. glad it’s over lol

PS : B cheated on Me