Pitched in money to buy new house but mom wants to divide ‘equally’ between me and sibling
My relationship with my mom or sibling has never been supportive or just loving. Too many incidents to quote but the recent one. We had to move in immediately to a new house else we’d be homeless. My sibling lives far while me and mom live together. She and I went for house hunts, did all the grunt work— a LOT OF paperwork which was extremely twisted for me to understand. Had zero support from the sibling. This whole ordeal took two months during which I lost a lot of work because of paucity of time.
When we finalised the house mom was short of money so I gave all of my savings without a second thought because in my head it was everyone’s home. And everyone would step in to help in any way possible.
Days passed by, the sibling did not show up— neither personally nor emotionally. No guidance also from their end— they’re older to me, could’ve helped with guidance at least. On the other hand, mother keeps playing the widow victim card and yearning for my sibling in front of other WHILE I am handling everything. All of the paperwork, the running around, the deal, household chores alongside my work which still is in a slump.
The sibling did not show up until 15 minutes before moving into the new house. I am not exaggerating. I did the whole moving-packing too. They just showed up. And after moving in, they’ve been showing up every weekend…where TH were they before this?
Even after moving in some work was pending and I left for a two week work trip. In my absence, none of them got ANYTHING done. NOTHING AT ALL! The wiring is still lose, the retaining wall is a mess, water connectivity still an issue. Even something as menial as buying toilet paper has been delayed.
And my mom wants to do a 50-50.
At this point I am broke. All of my savings are gone, I’ve suffered the loss of new clients because of the time this whole thing demanded—which is 60% loss of what I currently make. Ideally, she should either return my money I. 6 months. While it still is in its real value or increase my share.
I feel like a complete villain for saying this. But when this all started, I had no such intent. With time, seeing them throw everything on me, showing up nowhere, brining me down in front of others, being unfair to me feels like the final nail in the coffin.
She’s dependent on me to the extent of expecting me to make meals after an entire day of work while she just lies in bed all day. Does not step out of the house unless I am.