u/Nikzxxx — reddlx

Hello.. I really don’t know where to go about this anymore. Recently my grandfather passed away. I called out that day (which was last Friday) to tell him my final goodbyes. She asked me for proof. A letter or something. Also I will add that I was not put on the schedule for this week, I only worked two days. That Friday she texts the group chat that she changed the schedules and to go by it. She changes the schedules 4 times a week. Suddenly I’m scheduled more days, there was an issue, his funeral is the following Saturday (today), which I texted the group chat and said “I truly appreciate the hours but his funeral is on Saturday..” she calls me to tell me that she needs proof, and that her boss asked her to ask me. Well I don’t know what to get or what the policy is, she didn’t tell me there was a policy. On Saturday the 18th I go in for my shift. She so happened to be extremely late that day and I had to talk to her about asking for the policy so I better understand what was needed. She comes in hot, upset. But asks me if I had proof yet. I told her “he just died…..” then asks if anyone is in the store. It was just me and another BA. She then says “I have problems. Issues.” That two BAs were out and she needed help. I said “I will help you close today (it was a Saturday), Sunday and Monday, but I really need that Saturday off.” She starts yelling at me, “we already talked about this, that’s why I asked you for proof.” I say “well, I’m not coming in that Saturday. I’m just not.” We put it on pause because a customer comes in. Then she takes me to the back and tells me I was wrong for the way I spoke to her in front of another BA. I said “you started yelling at me first.” She looks at me like I’m crazy and says “I didn’t yell. That’s how I talk.” I said right… then she says “If you just offered your help, and didn’t react the way you did, I would have given you the day and figured it out.” I was so surprised and told her “you are so unprofessional.” She then says “that’s why I keep asking for proof.” I said “how am I supposed to get it??? He JUST died.” Then I couldn’t be strong anymore. I broke down. I was hyperventilating. She then tries to be comforting, and completely fails. She says she understands because she went through it, and then brings up how I should be in her shoes. That if she’s not mean, she gets walked all over. Something about how she’ll lose her job too if she didn’t hire more BAs. Then told me to take the day because she can see I’m in pain and couldn’t be strong to work. In reality I broke down because of the way she was speaking to me at the worst time. I begged her to give me a minute to calm down so I can go back out there. But she insisted I go home. She told me I wasn’t fired but to take the day. I asked another BA who wasn’t scheduled to cover for me. So that’s set up. This whole thing has just been stressful. Oh and she changed the schedule again. Said there was reduced hours. I noticed it was just me. I work only one day this week. She added another from a different store.

Update: today on the schedule the day of the funeral, she adds someone from another store, a new BA and there’s 7 people scheduled today. Like this is beyond abusive and dehumanizing.