AIO: I (24F) told my bf (28M) he should find someone else if I can’t fulfill his sexual needs after surgery?
I had my myomectomy on 6 days ago and I’m still in early recovery. Last night my boyfriend asked me “what if you can’t feel anything during sex anymore? what's the plan then?” and kept pushing for solutions and plans. I got frustrated and told him that if after I fully heal and I genuinely can’t fulfill his sexual needs, then he should just go find someone else who can.
He got really upset and asked if he should start preparing for a breakup now, which i said no. Then he said that I clearly don’t care about him or our relationship, and that sexual activity keeps the relationship working and that there's studies of that and so on.
I just feel pretty bummed out and a little annoyed that he was so worried about that. The surgery was on my uterus, not my vagina, and sexual feeling isn’t supposed to be affected. He's focused on this hypothetical worst case scenario while I’m literally trying to heal from surgery, and as of right now he's not talking to me.