u/Newfrenchiemom

I (30F) have been dating my boyfriend (30M) for a while now. His little brother’s confirmation is on Tuesday and my boyfriend is the godfather, so obviously it’s a big deal for their family. I was always planning on attending and supporting him.

Here’s where the issue comes in. My grandma is older and not doing very well health-wise. My brother lives out of state and happened to come into town unexpectedly. My grandma asked if we could all take a family photo together because she wants a photo of all of us for Christmas, and honestly we don’t know how much longer we have with her.

Unfortunately, the confirmation overlaps with the timing for the photo. From what I understand, the confirmation class is very large and the ceremony is expected to last multiple hours.

I never said I wasn’t going to the confirmation. My plan was literally to go to the beginning, support my boyfriend and his brother, leave briefly to take the family photo, and then come back afterward.

For context, I’m not Catholic, I’m not the godmother, and I don’t have an official role in the ceremony. I was attending mainly as emotional support for my boyfriend. According to him, his little brother was excited for me to be there, which I understand and feel bad about.

But now both my boyfriend and his mom are upset with me and acting like I’m doing something terrible by leaving at all. Meanwhile, in my head, this feels like a rare and important family moment that I may never get another chance to have.

I genuinely don’t understand if I’m missing some major social rule here. AITW?

So I’m trying to reread the series before the sixth book comes out. And I was able to breeze through the first ones really quickly. Because the good writing and I’m just dedicated to this. But now I’m rereading. ACOSF and honestly, I’m just really pissed off at. I just can’t get over the fact that she’s just so rude and she’s so bitter. I know she gets better throughout the book but it’s still really makes me mad. Like I’m generally feel like this book is a rage bait book. Because I am raging over here. Does anyone else feel this way like I’m trying to reread it and I’m just getting more and more pissed off. I know she gets friends and there’s character development and she gets a little better. But I generally don’t like this character she’s just a brat. A spoiled older daughter brat. And the way she thinks it’s just like me and selfish and annoying. I just really hope she has a better character development through the next couple books because I don’t think I can keep reading this so she’s still gonna be the brat that she is.