How do i deal with my SIL?
How would you guys deal with this?
Currently 28wks. I had a miscarriage before this, and went to my SIL in tears the day i passed my baby as she was the only person i knew who experience a miscarriage. I only went to her this once, and never again regarding the matter. I was a mess and had nobody else as every other support system was at work.
My SIL miscarried 6-8 months prior to me. Now my baby is healthy and all is going well, SIL is making comments to my little sister about how she feels undermined. That her experience was much more saddening and nobody celebrated her baby. (I should note my loss was not celebrated either and I didn’t even tell anyone about it besides her and my own family). She’s making repeated comments to my younger sister about how nobody helped her through her grief but she helped me through mine, I was there for her during her loss and offered her support. This mother’s day we brought her flowers and wished her a happy mother’s day. And she still made a comment to my sister about how while it was nice we did that she’s still sad.
Understandable, I don’t expect grief to disappear. I understand that. But the constant comments to my little sister saying that she never got to have a baby shower for her baby so being around me makes her sad is rubbing me the wrong way. It’s like she’s fishing for my younger sister to feel sorry for her. My sister and I are extremely close and SIL is aware of that. She keeps saying she hates that my baby is celebrated and hers wasn’t! My miscarriage wasn’t celebrated either!!
To my face she shares joy, and says she can’t wait for baby to be here. But to know she’s deep down harboring resentment against how my pregnancy is going well is kind of just making me lose my marbles.