Hi girls. I kind of had an epifaphy last weekend and i came to the conclusion that you are probably 40% more attracktive than you think but you are just not giving in into the pressure of licking every mans balls (metaphoricaly of course) in your surroundings. I hope i am able a help any young women that are struggling with self confidence.
Last weekend i went out for some drinks with a group of people, some of which were my friends. Everybody was super nice but i couldnt help but wonder why wasnt any guy approaching me. It was by no means my intetion since i am in a relationship, but i was wondering out of sheer curiosity. The other girls in my group were getting plenty of attention. I had pretty clothes on. I was friendly. So my question was why? Am i ugly? Unaproachable? Is this the reason i dont get that job i want? The appartment i was? Is this the reason nobody notices my complains in society?
Well now i have an answer to it. Its Yes and No.
I am a good looking woman. I say this because i get compliments from men and women from time to time. Id give myself a 7/10, an 8/10 when i put makeup and i dress on. Now that you know where i stand in the scale of attracktiveness let me answer the above question and how that kind of made me realize that you were never the problem.
I wasnt getting approached like my friends because i wasnt drinking like them, flirting like them or showing tits and ass like them. They were, in fact, giving the guys surrounding us that fantasy of the reckless young fun girl. Which i wasnt. and i also understood that that applied to pretty much everywhere in life. I used to think that looks play the bigger role in acquainting in getting what you want (job, pass exam, dream house, boyfriend) since all there are mostly offered by men. And men really do get blinded by beauty.
Its not only the looks though. Its the little mimics, clothes and even words that give man the littlest hope of engaging with you. Damn they even go as far as thinking that they can get you into their bed. At the end it all boils down to the chase.
I used to get that kind of attention constantly when i was mid 20s because i too, was partying, flirting showing ass and tits and somewere down the line, i grew up and got a real job and real hobbies.
So girls PLEAAASSSEEEE. If you mind your own damnt bussiness everyday and are not a pick meesha you will indeed get less attention,but not because you are not beautiful, or smart of worth it. Its because you dont lick balls everyday (metaphoricaly)
EDIT: im surprised by how wrong everybody got my merssage. Omg. Maybe it is cultural differences. Maybe its social media normalizing sexualisation. I really dont know. All i know is if you keep putting yourself out like that, its all you will be remembered for. We unfortunately live a in a mens world. If you think that by obiding their desires you are winning. then keep doing that girl.
As for me thinking i am better then everybody else, you missed the point