u/New_Perception789

A lot of times my SO and I get into an emotional tension during the day. She is bipolar if it matters. If I try to address it or say the way she acts is scaring me (when she’s overstimulated or upset she’ll aggressively close doors, throw things, make loud verbal statements like “there’s nothing in house that can just be clean”) she’ll continuously make herself busy and position herself as if I’m interrupting her. I’ll say I don’t think it’s appropriate to yell or act that way and she’ll say I’m just making food. I’ll ask if she can stop doing what she’s doing and talk to me or if she’s about to throw something I’ll try to grab her hand because she could hurt herself or damage something. She’ll always say she has stuff to do or essentially minimize what’s happening and the way she’s acting. So I guess my question is, is this a specific emotional abuse tactic, or what can I look up to gain a better understanding of these sort of situations.