u/New_Hour_3924

I was out with my sister earlier today, and I ran into one of my best friends on a date with a woman….he’s in a relationship.

Obviously, I was really confused. Before he started dating her he was a serial cheater. So in part, I wasn’t surprised, but I still was, because he’s been with his current girlfriend for two years, they’ve been very on and off again but I know for sure that he loves her.

When I caught him, he claimed that she was just a course mate, and it wasn’t anything serious. I asked him if his girlfriend knew, and he said no. He said she’d be jealous and she’d be angry about it, he was already very nervous about me judging him for it, rightly so, because he’s knows how I feel about cheating.

I’m back home now and I need some advice on what to do, how can I tell his girlfriend for her to believe me? I’m not asking if I should tell her, i already made the decision to, she deserves to know. I just have no tangible evidence.

I was with my ex-girlfriend for 4 years. We got together pretty young I’d say, and we broke up mid-last year for a variety of reasons. The main one being incompatibility. Because we got together so young, we both didn’t give each other enough room to grow as individuals outside growing as a couple.

Fast forward to now, we’ve recently started talking again, and we’re working towards getting back together. I love her very much, and there’s not been a single day during our break up that I haven’t thought about getting back together with her. During the entirety of our relationship, we didn’t have intimacy because she wanted to wait till marriage. And I was completely okay with that, I’ll admit I asked once or twice, but we worked through it, and we were both happy with how it was going.

A few days ago, I took her out on a date to spend some time together and to see if our plans for the future still aligned. During this date, she said she had to come clean and she told me she’d briefly dated someone else around the end of last year, and that she’d lost her virginity to him. I was taken aback and she could tell it had thrown off my mood. She suggested we take some time apart for me to think about how it would affect us getting back together.

I’ve thought about it a lot, and I’d like a second opinion from Reddit. I love her, a lot, and I can’t imagine myself spending the rest of my life without her, but I also don’t know how to get past this. I was with her for 4 solid years and she never wanted to have intimacy in that time, and we break up and all of a sudden she’s okay with it. I know I have no right to be angry or even feel anything because we were broken up, what she got upto was and is none of my business.!

I’m really conflicted so I guess I need some advice here, what can I do.