Hey yall.
I'm struggling how to go about this. I'll give the full story.
I got into a relationship with someone 2yrs ago after getting out of a 10yr relationship with who i thought at the time was the person for me. I am 29yrs old.
We just had a newborn son. He is currently one month old.
We as well have been living together for a year. During that time, I've started to notice things about her. She is very mentally abusive towards me. And I dread coming home everyday. One little thing will set her off.
Theres way way more that I cant type up. But she needs professional help.
I'm not perfect either. But no where near her. People want me in their life.
She absolutely hates my mother. For no grounds to stand on. We dont know why. Shes nothing but kind to my girlfriend. To where shes trying to keep my son away from her as much as possible.
Girlfriend has 1 daughter who is 10. She doesn't have custody or visitation from a incident that her husband falsely accused her of physical abuse. Its being handled now. But still.
My problem is, we are no good for each other. At all.
Shes still legally married so I wasnt allowed to be put on the birth certificate at the hospital.
She as well is breast feeding our son. Doesnt want to bottle feed for a bit.
I want out. But I have no claim to him. He is mine. I know if I leave right now, she'll never let me see him.
But if I leave,
She wont have a roof, neither will son. She doesnt work and hasnt since I met her. I wouldnt be able to feed him and feel like he will be granted to her majority of the time just because of him breast feeding. I want to hang on until.he starts eating solids. But idk if I can.
As well, if I go to the offices and start the process to get put on the certificate, that's gonna be the end of us right then and there more than likely and she will block me from seeing him.
I dont want my son to think I dont want to be around. I want to be in his life full time. Just not with his mother
I try not to argue and what not around him.
I need a little guidance on the way to go. Anyone have a direction or words of wisdom?