AITAH for my Maternity leave expectations?
I (f) am 24 weeks pregnant and feel completely anxious about my maternity leave. I work at a small family-owned company (only 14 employees) in upper management. My boss heavily relies on me for the majority of the company tasks and has repeatedly told me how I’m a needed employee. While I'm gone, there will be someone managing the majority of my tasks. He’s told me multiple times that due to my position, the expectations for me are different. Over the past few months, we’ve had multiple conversations about the expectations of my maternity leave. Each time, he completely forgets what we agreed on.
Today, the same thing happened, and he acted completely shocked/frustrated. Each time I try to remind him that I’m not trying to cause any issues for the company. I’m trying to make sure I can be there for my family and have time to heal. This time we decided to get it in writing, so this wouldn’t repeat itself. I feel so frustrated with the situation, and it always makes my anxiety worse. It feels like he's treating my maternity leave as a vacation. Can you please tell me if I’m an asshole for my expectations?
Expectations:
The first 2 weeks are going to be zero contact to allow time for me to heal. During week 2-6 I will be hoping daily (for 30 mins to 1 hour) to make sure everything is running smoothly. If there’s an emergency, I would be willing to work longer. From 6-12 I come back remote, part-time. I will be taking the majority of my tasks back. After 12 weeks, I will come back full-time.
Info: I will be getting paid my full salary during my maternity leave. I have documented all my expectations and emailed them to my employer. I've created multiple SOPs for my job and will have someone in the office to do the majority of the job. Due to being a small company, legally, he doesn't have to give me maternity leave.