u/NewRelease3445

Me and my ex officially broken up about 4 weeks ago. No contact for 2 weeks. She stopped taking meds consistently, stopped talking with psychiatrist/therapist.

I ended the relationship with her because her mood swings were all over the place, she would constantly get in her emotions and blame me for making her feel some type of way.

When we broke up I tried to tell her that we just were incomplete but that I still loved her. She called me a week after saying that I’m a big liar and continued to bash on me saying stuff like “ you’re such a liar, you don’t know how to talk to me”, this n that. Regardless of every fight I try to always meet in the middle and keep it peace but it seemed like one person had to be wrong which happens to be me almost all the time.

I’m slightly getting over the breakup but the closure seems like it’ll never be. I constantly wonder if she’ll realize that she might’ve been possibly in a mixed episode based on her symptoms. I know that she would sometimes twist words around and I know for a fact she has me as the villain to her family n friends.

I loved her and I know that it was probably the bipolar taking over since she declined on treatment. But it hurts knowing what coulda been and the potential of the relationship.

I loved her so much, but I refuse to be having to accept that I was in fault, her communication never made sense, she made me look bad in other people’s eyes.

She also turned 21 recently and had started drinking alcohol and smoking weed a bit. I don’t know if that had to do with anything.

It has been nearly 2 week since I(23M) and my ex(21F) have ended the relationship. The break up was honestly a bit impulsive on my end but, long story short, she didn't like the fact that I followed this one girl who's her co worker, I've never had any relation with her or don't know her personally, and it kept bugging her. The relationship mainly ended because within our span of 3 months being boyfriend and girlfriend, it was constant arguing. She constantly blamed me for things and I would try to meet in the middle with her but for her it seemed like it was such black and white thinking.

She called me 3 days ago saying how she wants closure and the whole call was her basically saying that I'm such a terrible person and I can never meet her needs and won't change for her. From my perspective we just couldn't work out, our perspective on things were different, and our communication wasnt healthy. But for her she kept on trying to push the breakup on me causing it to be my fault.

She hasn't been on meds, or talked to her therapist/psychiatrist ever since she got pregnant and got an abortion. Prior to actually asking her to be my girlfriend everything was good. She was on top of her meds, talking with her therapist and psychiatrist but she was smoking weed all day everyday morning to night, she then eventually stopped though. She was very emotional after that and mood swings seemed unpredictable.

Our fights would be her just getting mad out of nowhere and all of a sudden it would turn into an argument. She says it's communicating but it's always her blaming on me and saying she wants me to changes on stuff and change with how I cope in certain situations. When she yells at me or blames me, I tend to get quiet to prevent myself from escalating the situation and not wanting to say something that was impulsive or not genuine. She wanted me to say something right then and there than to be quiet and take my time.

It was honestly a toxic relationship and in the end was the best decision for both of us to have it end before things got worse while it was still early. I do miss her a bit tho. I constantly wonder that if she stayed on top of treatment would everything have been okay and worked out? I do miss what we had other than the times she would get mad. We had so much in common, spent so much time together, went to church together. Just makes me wonder/wish if she got on treatment again would she ever realize that she had faults as well during the relationship? Maybe that since she has been off she hasn't been the same? During the time too she turned 21, so she started to drink a bit more, smoke weed here n there, and was wanting to do shrooms.