Everyone - it gets better. You can get here too.
I was lovebombed and fell in complete love/infatuation with an avoidant/narcissist and was immediately discarded early this year. It was the most brutal, traumatic and soul-crushing 2 months of my life trying to recover, but after getting a degree in attachment theory from reddit university and watching a bunch of Jay Shetty videos, I finally met someone secure and we are starting a healthy relationship.
It gets better, you can get here too, let your avoidant go by realizing what they are. The mask you fell in love with at the start does not exist. Let me repeat because this is so important - THE MASK YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH AT THE START DOES NOT EXIST.
Get this through your fucking brain, heal your PTSD however you can and you CAN move on and find the secure relationship you want with someone who will treat you correctly.
Avoid the avoidant. The mask you fell in love with at the start does not exist, the version of them that discarded you is their true self. Stop watching youtube videos about how to get your avoidant back or stalking their social media or fantasizing about “them” coming back, because “they” do not exist. They feed off of your spiritual energy. Avoid the avoidant, and you can find the secure love you deserve.