It’s a long story so I will try to make it short
Started seeing this guy in december. First talks he had lots of promises about being together. a week after meeting i noticed his interest died down. We had already had sex then and were still having sex.
1 month later he started denying sex. I asked why and we had a deep convo about how he thought I ask too much sex and we don’t do anything fun together so he started feeling too much pressure and that’s why he didn’t want to anymore. In this same conversation he mentioned that his physical attraction to me is gone and wants to see if it comes back but he cares about me and sees me as someone he wants to “hug” all the time but no sex.
After this conversation we had sex again 2 times because he asked and 1 time because I asked.
Then he ended things and said “we can stay friends but no sex anymore”
From then on he became more distant. We went from seeing eachother minimal 2x per week and calling/videocalling everyday to 1 time per month seeing eachother and calling every other day. As friends.
This went on for a 2.5 months and since 2 weeks ago he started calling again everyday, coming over often and sometimes even showing up out of the blue at my house.
This man only wants friendship as he says often “i find it very fun with you” and since things ended I asked for sex a few times, he refused everytime.
I’m deeply attached to him. I have tried to move on. I tried to ignore his calls and messages. When I do that, he shows up at me house.
I explained to him countless times how I feel and why I don’t want to be in contact anymore, he ignores, shrugges it off, changes topic or says things “but we have so much fun together”
This man never said he wants a relationship but when we were still having sex he was very jealous of every other potiental man in my life, often calling to ask things “did you cheat on me?” when we don’t even have a relationship and he says he is single
2 days ago (thursday) he showed up unexpected again. Was a nice evening with me and my child and him, on the couch, watching tv..
And suddenly he made another jealous remark out of the blue “so was you with that man again?”
Then the next day I don’t hear anything from him and today he called but that was it. He is distant again after calling daily for 2 weeks and showing up for 2 weeks.
Saturday and Monday he was here too. And basically the whole week last week. We even laid up together on the couch in spoon position. And since things ended we havent done that so that was rare.
I’m soooo confused.
What does he want from me? How do I end things? I’m just hurting now that we had so much fun and he is distant again. I want to let go. I have been hurting for months…