My girlfriend enjoys going to gigs and concerts but one thing she refuses to consider is the cost to other people. So she’ll but my ticket if she wants me to go but then expects me to pay for half of the travel, hotel and food and drink etc
Once or twice a year isn’t too bad but she looks at going 4-5 times along with holidays abroad. This year we have an expensive holiday booked for my birthday and we have two gigs booked for different cities.
We agreed that it wouldn’t be affordable for us to do any other events this year. My gf saw tickets for sale for an artist she really wants to see. She was talking about getting tickets for us to go, I explained again to her why we’d agreed and mentioned it was unaffordable.
She ignored that and started talking about how it’s someone she really wants to see. I told her if she wants to go she can pay for the hotel, travel and all of the food and drinks herself if she wants me to go. She said that I wasn’t being fair but I just told her it’s unaffordable and my savings shouldn’t suffer because I she can’t accept not getting to do everything she wants.
I said she can go on her own or with friends but I won’t be paying to go somewhere that I don’t want to go when I don’t have the money. She said I want being far because I know how much she wants to see the artist but I just pointed out I wasn’t stopping her going, I was just refusing to spend my money on it.
AITAH for telling my girlfriend to pay for everything if she wants me to join her at an event?