I 22F am married to my 23M husband. We’ve been married for a 1 year now and got married pretty early on in the relationship (I know kinda stupid but he wanted to and I was giddy so I said yes). A few months ago we started having problems, it first started when I got off birth control which he knew I was getting off it. I have PCOS so I took birth control to regulate my hormones but since being off it my libido has been low. We still have sex at the very least once a week but apparently it’s not enough for him. He keeps shitting on me saying that I “don’t even wanna have sex with him anymore” and that I must be gay. Although neither is true. I also found out that he is an alcoholic and have tried talking to him and the whole 9 yards but he just doesn’t want to listen. It’s so bad that he shit talks me while drunk and then tells me to just “ignore” what he says but it still hurts hearing it. Currently he is on an ongoing 3 week binger and I don’t see him stopping. He also has recently continuously been shit talking my food but won’t cook it himself instead, and he doesn’t have a car and is under my insurance on my car but still doesn’t drive at all unless it’s for his own gain. I just don’t know what to do. I love him and want what’s best for him but I also feel stuck. I don’t want to spend my life getting dogged on everyday for everything nor do I want to spend my life with someone who refuses to believe they have a drinking problem. What should I do? I have gotten advice from friends but I want unbiased opinions on this. Anything helps and i’m sorry if it’s all over the place.
Update: I have decided to give him an ultimatum. The ultimatum was that he either gets help and actually changes his actions and how he is with me or we get a divorce. If he gets help and changes then great, but if he does so and reverts back to his ways then divorce it is and also if he doesn’t get help at all then divorce. I know that some of you may be disappointed that i’m even giving him this instead of just leaving him but i really do love him. i didn’t say any good things about him in the post because i didn’t want it to be lengthy but he has good qualities too but as of right now it’s more bad then good. Nonetheless I appreciate each and everyone of you for giving your opinion and helping me realize what to do it means a lot to me. Thank you all!