u/New-Manufacturer5371

We will have to live together a while, we have two teens aged 14 and 18 . Should we tell them straight away whilst we are still living together or wait until he's moving out? (That could be months)

He's been emotionally and financially abusive for years. Now he's watching live cam girls. He's drinking every day. We've been married 20 years and have 2 kids. I am just so incredibly unhappy. I guess I'm just here for support from those who have been through similar. Give me some courage because I'm terrified to tell him