Is it worth getting a divorce
I am 40(f) my husband, 42(m) and I am so sick of the imbalance in our relationship/life. I work full time from home and operate a small business to bring in extra money. My husband has a small business at home as well that is part time at best. he says he wants to expand his business but I dont see much effort that way. we have 2 kids that I take to school everyday because he doesnt/cant get up in the morning. he recently had a sleep study done where it was found he has severe OSA and that prohibits him from getting any rest. he will pick up the kids in the afternoon if I ask him to. he will cook dinner if I ask him to. he does not clean or do laundry or keep up the kids' schedules. i make the dr appointments, attend teacher conferences on top of a full time job. I dont mind that he only works part time but of that is the case I think he should pick up the domestic duties.
we also live in an unfinished house. the house is liveable but still has projects. he will only do them if I beg/nag constantly. and when he finally does, I get attitude. I feel like I am the manager of our life and he does nothing to help shoulder some of the load.
I cant help but day dream about what it must be like to be with a man who works! in or out of the home but does something other than sleep late, scroll till noon or so and then scroll/watch tv after the kids get home. literally there's a 3 hour or less window when he MIGHT get something done.
I have shown him how we cant financially keep this up and it gets dismissed. I dont want to wait to lose the house or file bankruptcy for him to finally get out of his recliner.
I guess I am curious from those who have been thru it, is this worth divorce over? could it get better and then I regret ending things or could it stay this way or get worse and then I regret not leaving sooner. i do worry about the kids, 12 and 4.
any insight is appreciated!