My partner (30-F) and I (35-M) have always been very comfortable being naked around each other, be it dressing, showering, etc etc etc. Sex has always been great as well, never a complaint from either side. As the years went on though (esp since our son was born), it became more me having to initiate, and be “in control” (thanks BookTok??) which was also great. Not something you want every time though. Sometimes you just want easy and relaxed and not playing out a fantasy, just to enjoy each other. I’ve brought this up before and it ends up being that she needs to be (or put) “in the mood”. Now we maybe have sex once a month, yet I’m still quite physically intimate (cuddling/kissing/she doesn’t mind butt grabs) with her as before. I don’t really get much physical contact from her anymore, let alone sexual contact. I’m still a man with needs and I can’t help my hormones when walking around or next to me naked. I’m almost apologetic for getting turned on for fear of being just another guy who wants sex all the time.
The little devil on my shoulder is telling me I should just go full abstinence, wear clothes at all times around her and avoid and intimate contact until she notices. Maybe it’s an immature idea, but I’m tired of having to work so hard for something that we (used to, apparently) enjoy to where it feels like a hustle.