F28 here. I have been dating this M27 guy for almost 2 months now, after years of one-time flings and toxic situationships. I just wanted to share this.
He and I met online and I feel very lucky for that. He’s a great guy and I’m so not used to being treated like he actually wants to reciprocate the effort I give. Though of course it isn’t perfect and we are both busy, we really try to see each other at least once a week after work.
He’s a gentleman and shows his care through small actions like getting my bag for me, making sure I get an Angkas home before he does, putting food on my plate before his, among many other actions. As someone used to men who were only nice at the beginning until they had sex with me, I had my doubts that this guy would be any different. We have actually already been physically intimate. Akala ko wala na siya pagkatapos nun. But he hasn’t left. And he has yet to be inconsistent with his small acts of care when we’re together.
Last week, he did something I can’t forget.
We went out for dinner near my condo. Sinabi ko sa kanya, “Malala insomnia ko this week.“ I was actually tired during that dinner too. And I knew he was stressed too because of work. Sabi pa niya na magtatrabaho pa siya pagkauwi niya.
And he could have immediately gone home after dinner. But instead he asked me, “Can I walk you to your condo and keep you company so you can fall asleep?” And so he did that. He walked the 20 minutes from the restaurant to my condo with me. It was around 9 pm, the streets were quieter, and he held my hand. We talked and laughed about whatever. I felt safe.
When we got to my condo, I washed up and changed into my sleepwear. When I got out of the bathroom, he was already sitting on one side of the bed and had opened his work laptop. I took the spot beside him and kissed his cheek, told him thank you for being here. We cuddled during his self-imposed work breaks. He played a chill Taylor Swift playlist, yung puro acoustic and soft beats.
I thought, parang di ko kaya matulog kahit pagod na pagod ako. I want to spend as much quality time with you as I can right now, even if it’s just sitting beside you as you work. Pero nagwagi yung pagod at nakatulog ako.
Nagising ako nung paalis na siya ng mga 1 am. He noticed and apologized for waking me. I said, no, I wanted to see you off. He gave me one last hug in bed. I walked him to the elevator, all sleepy. We kissed goodbye. “Ingat ka,” I said, “See you soon.”
I’ve had many guys come to that same bed in the past. We would fuck. Then we would go our separate ways and forget each other.
But this guy didn’t even take my clothes off. He just stayed until I fell asleep. And that kind of intimacy I don’t think I can forget anytime soon.
I realized that moment that I wanted to make him feel safe and comfortable too.
It is still so early on in this thing. I don’t even know if we will end up together, though we are exclusive now. We are still getting to know each other and exploring because it is important for both of us to have a solid friendship too.
But one thing is for sure right now: I like this person. And I want to make this person feel they are wanted and appreciated too.
TRUE STORY. Pramis. Tunay yung kilig ko at 1:30 am hahahahah. Thanks for reading all the way here if you did. Have a great day 🙏