u/Nervous_Smile1993

Vehicle Repossession?

Due to having a soon to be ex husband who has refused to ever get a job, and who has had us move around multiple times in pursuit of his subcontractor opportunities the past year (not a single job he’s ever completed, he usually quits because other people don’t know what he’s taking about so then we lose on money due to not completing the contract plus our travel costs). I’ve been trying to keep things afloat by working whatever jobs I can whenever we move, but it’s been so inconsistent that I’ve falling way behind on my car finance. And honestly, everything else.

I have already been warned I am at risk of repossession and honestly at this point I feel it would probably be for the best. I own a secondary vehicle that was purchased for the big business he was going to build that was paid in cash. I plan on using that to trade in for a sedan or SUV so I will at least have a vehicle to get to and from work without worrying about how I’m going to make my biweekly car payments and catch up on over $1700.

Wondering If anyone has had a vehicle repossessed and can give me an idea on the process? Located in BC. I’d just like to prepare myself in case they were to show up with a tow truck at my work and try and save myself from the embarrassment.

I have offered to voluntarily surrender the car twice now and my finance company only provides extensions to pay even after threatening repossession and will never provide an option to self surrender the car. It’s a shitty position to be in but I have no choice. I have to completely rebuild my life and get the rest of my finances back in order and this cars regular finance is over $700 a month.

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u/Nervous_Smile1993 — 4 days ago

My husband never wished me happy birthday

My husband and I have been married for almost 4 months, to say it’s been a rocky road is an understatement. We are currently not living in the same house because of some of his behaviour.

Today is my birthday, I got my usual texts from my friends on the other side of the country. No good morning text or anything from my husband, so I assumed he was still sleeping. An hour later I go outside to run to the store, only to see my husband has been by and swapped out the cars. No text, no call. I just thought okay, whatever. The plan was for us to spend time together after work, have a couple beers and enjoy the evening so I thought maybe he was waiting until then.

He calls a few hours later, no happy birthday, nothing. Just straight to complaining how bad his morning was going. I was getting ready for work, straightening my hair, and he accused me of muting the phone and that if I didn’t want to listen to him I should just say that and he hung up on me.

Then the assault of rude messages came in and continued to come in. He said many hurtful things which has been an ongoing issue the past couple months, so I told him I wasn’t responding further. His rude messages continued.

I decided that this is the best birthday gift he could have given me - clarity. If my own husband can treat me this badly on my birthday of all days, this isn’t the marriage, relationship or man for me. I have a consultation with a lawyer tomorrow to find out what my options are for divorce or annulment. 🎈

ETA: Phew, took the doggo for a walk and was not expecting the amount of pure support and love so quickly, how I love being a woman! Thank you to all you beautiful ladies for the messages of support and birthday wishes! 🥹

u/Nervous_Smile1993 — 6 days ago