AIO Transferring Daughter from Public School to Private School
My daughter last day of classes before Spring Break had called me asking me to bring her a shirt because what she was wearing was deemed inappropriate. This happened in her 6th hour class. This is am afternoon class. All morning nobody had an issue with her outfit? I didn't when she left for school.
She was wearing a tank top with one of my button ups, capris, and sneakers. All she had to do was button up the shirt and she wouldn't be showing anymore skin than what is trending for her age today.
Of course a it was her history that called her out during a presentation. He told her that her outfit was inappropriate and that she needed to either call a parent for a new shirt or wear gym clothes.
She admitted she escalated the situation by asking who she was distracting, her classmates or the teacher himself.
I pulled her out of school for the rest of the day. I figured it was better to collect her assignments and just let her relax for a bit. It's embarrassing to be called out like that.
I also emailed her teacher asking for a conference call when he was available. I would like to have discussed the issue, because I only have her side. She's never had issues with this specific teacher. Others sure. She's been dressed coded before, but always in the morning and often by school security before starting class. None of them made her feel embarrassed. They told her politely and not in front of the class.
Due to this incident I felt uncomfortable with the idea of her returning to that class. I don't want my daughter to feel shame or even be around a older man who looks at her that way especially her teacher.
I talked with my daughter about switching classes around on her schedule. She was comfortable with the idea. I also discussed with her about finishing her senior year from a private school. She was okay with that as well. Despite that she won't graduate with her class and that the school I was applying for has a uniform.
My wife said I was doing too much and that her teacher meant no harm by anything. We talked and argued back a fourth. She said I was being an AH for assuming that her teacher was being creepy. That I shouldn't be allowed to just transfer for one year of high school because it will destroy our daughters future.
My wife wasn't there when I picked her up. She couldn't hear our daughter trying to not cry when calling me. I rather do what I believe is in the best interest of our daughter. I hate how she was shamed for what she was wearing.