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Share your most disturbing and pathetic stories about how they triangulated you with others

I’ll go first:

My ex worked with a girl he was obviously simping/mirroring who was hired at his job conveniently around the time he started devaluing me.

This new supply was the type who loves attention from anyone and I kid you not, she takes photos of her shits inside of the toilet and shows it to all the guys at work as some sort of power play and to make sure they saw her as “one of the guys”.

When he told me that, instead of getting angry and jealous, I just said “wow that’s really attention seeking” and he was furious.

Triangulation has to be one of the worst tactics they pull out because it just speeds up the never ending treadmill you’re on to chase their love and affection.

I truly wish I never met him.

I’m not gonna type out long winded paragraphs full of insight and depth or clarity because you already know the truth deep down.

These people are emotionally broken and there is nothing we can do to fix them. There is no magic spell or song and dance that can get someone to stop running and choose to love us back, even if we feel helpless, exhausted, frustrated or just want to try one more time.

Get up.

Go for that 45 minute walk.

Hit the gym and lift those weights.

Go for a swim.

Focus on yourself and set personal goals that you can accomplish to give yourself some sense of control and satisfaction after you spent months (or years) trying to help someone else who doesn’t even have the capacity to appreciate or care about anyone but themselves.

Your absence will either inspire them to get up and do the work, rise to meet you, and work towards a healthy relationship

Or it will help you realize that you deserved to be treated right the first time and that they don’t deserve a second, third, fourth, or fifth chance.

You will win either way.