Am I wrong
I 36f have 3 kids with ex husband (12m, 10m and 8f) all are involved in sports/extracurriculars. My oldest plays for a local travel baseball team but are all with 45 minutes of driving. My daughter does gymnastics but has a competition once a month usually a 2 hour drive away. My middle son plays for a travel soccer team that plays every Sunday over 1 hour driving each way. He has had 3 weekend tournaments this past fall with hotel stays and 2 weekend tournaments this spring with 2 more planned all 3+ hours away.
I had my 4th child in December 2023 and my 5th child in September 2025 with my now husband.
I have spoken with my ex husband on exhaust about having my 2nd son playing in these further away games and how hard it is to make them work for our family. He says that it’s too bad he wants him playing at this competitive level.
Fast forward to his next tournament. It is approx 4+ hours away on Mother’s Day weekend. They’ve planned to have a tshirt given to the moms that Sunday. My ex has basically guilted me into trying to go saying he has paid for all the other tournament weekends. It is also my weekend with my kids.
If it was any other weekend I would consider it but it’s Mother’s Day. I would have to leave kids behind or spend the weekend in a hotel watching my 2nd son play soccer.
My husband took off work to plan breakfast lunch and dinner and other things for me that day.
The other part is I can’t really afford to stay 2+ nights in a hotel plus food and etc as it’s not in my budget currently. I’m just coming off of maternity leave so trying to get back at base with expenses. The hotel is $500+ for 2 nights, plus gas and food.
I honestly have no idea what to do but I want to tell my ex husband he’s not going and keep him home with me that weekend which is going to cause a huge fight.