I am in a wedding. Bride and I have been very close friends for a decade +. Her MOH is not well liked. Literally everyone cannot stand her. She's just trashy... bad trashy and difficult to be around. I don't care, I don't have to be around her much at all. We're just a few months away from the wedding and MOH hasn't done anything, hasn't ordered the dress, hasn't started the Bachelorette planning. Bride ASKED me and the other BM to get together and get started. We did. All is well. We're doing what the bride wants, not what MOH wants her to want. I reach out in the group text to get some forward momentum from the MOH b/c I don't want to step on toes, but the BRIDE asked me to.
MOH loses her mind. She's rude, trashy, emotionally immature and completely loses it on me. I am physically with the bride as MOH is texting vile, nasty things about me to her. I felt like I had been thrown under the bus and the Bride should have put a stop to it. She didn't.
Next day MOH sends me a text, very "confused" about the scenario. I told her enough, I was just doing as I directed and didn't deserve to be called horrible names and essentially drug... that my only point was to get started and that was absurd and I didn't deserve it. 1. Bride must secretly hate me, b/c that was wild. 2. MOH is indeed as horrible as we all knew all along 3. Bride is mad at ME now b/c I told the MOH I was told some of what was said about me. mad at ME. WTF. Most of our friend group would be on my side, but that's ugly and not my intent. I cannot fathom being to blame after I was treated so badly. AITAH? Am I just not seeing it?