Help with talking?
Hi, I’m a single dad (M40) and was wondering if someone can give me some advice.
I’ve been separated and now divorced for a long time now, so I’m not rebounding but I need help with regards to just talking to women in general after initially approaching them.
I ask this because I was at the gym the other day and I’m almost 100% certain that a girl was signalling for me to go over and talk to her, she followed me around the gym for over almost 2 hours most of the time moving and working out next to me, making sure I noticed her…flicking her hair, her body language, her glancing back at me all the time…yet I just kept thinking that I didn’t know what to say to actually start a conversation and then let alone keep it going. I’m afraid in the back of my mind that any awkward silence will just kill any chance I have of locking in getting to know her better.
Then, other things pop in my head like “ shes really attractive, way out of your league, old man” , “ if this fails, shes just gonna think your a creep at the gym “ and “this is my gym that I go too all the time - so what happens if I crash and burn then I have to go see her all the time”.? All these thoughts stack up in the back of my head killing any confidence I can summon.
Does anyone have any advice on how to keep the conversation flowing and just to help keep myself to remain confident and have some cues to fall back on? Any advice would be great.
Thank you