My mom showed up at my apartment to "check on me" and went through my fridge while I was in the shower
I'm 26 and live alone. I moved out three years ago and overall things with my mom are fine, we talk a few times a week, I see her on weekends sometimes. Normal stuff. Last Thursday she texted saying she was nearby and wanted to drop something off. I said sure, come up. When she got there I was about to jump in the shower real quick before we went to grab lunch. I told her I'd be like 10 minutes, she could sit on the couch and watch tv.
I come out and she's standing in the kitchen and has clearly been going through my fridge. She had moved stuff around, there were two containers on the counter that she had pulled out, and she was reading the label on something. She goes "you don't have any vegetables in here" and I just kind of stood there for a second. Then she starts telling me what I should be buying, says the leftovers in the back "don't look right," and asks if I'm eating enough protein. I told her I was fine and asked her not to go through my stuff. She got this slightly offended look and said she was just checking, she's my mom, she worries.
I said I get that but my fridge is my fridge and I'd appreciate it if she didn't do that. She was kind of quiet and weird for the first part of lunch. She texted me later that night that she "just cares about me." I didn't really respond to that part. I love her but I am 26 years old. My fridge is allowed to not have vegetables in it.