AITAH for asking for my half of a house down payment back?
I was 19 at the time, my ex was 31. We found a nice house and decided to buy it together (we were dating for about a year at this point)
He couldn't afford the house on his own so we decided to split the down payment. I gave him my half of $12.5k, almost my entire savings.
We were both supposed to go on the house deed but he conveniently went when I was at work and signed by himself for it so my name didn't even end up on the house.
After we bought the house, we moved in. I was handling all of our finances, doing budgeting, buying groceries, making sure bills get paid on time. We opened a joint account at my bank and agreed we'd each put in a certain equal amount each month for bills. He had his own bank and fell into the habit of not going to transfer money very often so i ended paying more each month into the joint account (the wonders of online transfers).
We broke up a year and half after moving in that house. I asked for my part of the down payment back and he refused because it was a "gift", which we had to say so the mortage lenders would accept the money.
He didn't offer any of it back. No payment plan, no small part of it, absolutely nothing.
I feel like I got taken advantage of, looking back at it all. So was I really the AH for asking for my down payment half back after basically keeping us afloat for the entire time?