I want to start a travel startup. I am non tech guy, one of the freelancer is asking 2 lakh rupees to develop the website. I want functional website where user can compare the tours from different operators.
30M from India. Ex left me after moving to Ireland and now I feel stuck in life.
I’m a 30-year-old guy from India, working in an MNC in a managerial position with a decent salary and stable career.
My ex and I were together for 3 years, and before that we were friends for 1 year. Overall, we had a genuinely good relationship. There were a few things in her behavior that bothered me at times, but I ignored them because I loved her and believed nobody is perfect. I accepted her with her flaws, just like I expected someone to accept mine.
Even before we got into the relationship, she had planned to move to Ireland for her master’s degree. We had discussed this properly and decided that she would go first, settle down, and then after a year I would join her on a spouse visa after marriage.
While she was still in India, I often asked if she had researched the spouse visa process or spoken to her sister (who already lives in Ireland). She would always say, “I’ll do the research once I reach there.” I trusted her completely.
I supported her in every possible way — emotionally, financially, and throughout her visa process.
When she first moved to Ireland, things were okay. She struggled initially and would panic a lot. I used to spend hours on calls calming her down. I would stay awake till late at night just to talk to her and make sure she felt okay.
But after around 4 months, her behavior slowly changed.
She stopped calling me. Whenever I called, she sounded distant. Earlier she used to constantly say “I love you,” but suddenly that disappeared too. I ignored it, thinking maybe she was stressed in a new country.
Then one day, her Semester 2 result came and she failed one subject and had to do a resit. I supported her emotionally through that as well.
Around that time, she asked me: “What have you thought about the future?”
I said: “Nothing has changed. We’ll get married next year.”
She replied: “It’ll take time for me.”
I asked: “How much time?”
She said: “2-3 years.”
That completely shocked me.
I told her I couldn’t wait another 2-3 years for marriage because:
Our parents are getting older
We had already been together for 3 years
I genuinely wanted to build a life with her
Then suddenly she said: “I want to break up.”
I tried everything possible to save the relationship. I kept telling her that a breakup is not the solution and that we should discuss things properly.
Then she said: “You are not here.”
So I immediately started preparing to come to Ireland myself on a student visa.
But by then, it felt like she had already mentally checked out of the relationship.
For the next 4 months, I kept trying to save us. Every single day I tried convincing her not to destroy something good because of temporary struggles.
At one point, I even went to her parents’ house and spoke to them. Nothing was hidden between our families. Her parents genuinely liked me. Since both their daughters were in Ireland, I used to help and take care of them here in India. They treated me like a son-in-law already.
But her responses became confusing and emotionally exhausting.
Sometimes she would say: “Come to Ireland, I’m waiting.”
Then another day: “Don’t come. There’s too much struggle here.”
Then one day: “I cheated on you.”
And the stupid part is… instead of leaving after hearing that, I was trying to console HER and save the relationship.
I kept thinking maybe she was stressed, confused, depressed, overwhelmed — anything except that she genuinely wanted to leave.
Then she started saying things like:
“I don’t want to marry you.”
“Why are you forcing this?”
“Even if I marry you, I’ll ruin your life.”
“You’ll never be happy with me.”
“I’m not the right person for you.”
“Don’t leave your mom and come here.”
“I don’t want to come back to India.”
I kept telling her: “We can build a life together anywhere. Partner should matter more than temporary struggles.”
But nothing worked.
Now she has blocked me everywhere.
And honestly, what hurts the most is not even the breakup itself.
It’s the feeling that she moved ahead in life while I feel completely stuck.
Objectively, my life is not bad:
decent salary
stable career
supportive family
But internally I feel like a loser because I trusted someone so deeply and still lost everything.
Now I don’t even know what I want anymore.
Part of me thinks maybe I should still move abroad — maybe Ireland or the Netherlands (my brother lives there). Another part of me feels like I’m making decisions emotionally because she left.
And the weirdest thing?
Even today, despite everything, I still visit her parents because they’re alone here and have nobody to help them.
I genuinely don’t know if I’m moving on… or just unable to let go. also, now i m feeling guilty that I am not able to help her or provide her anything while she is struggling abroad.
Sometimes I think is she the one ,with whom I spent 4 years, how can she do this to me, leaving me at such middle age, cross over in a confused state of mind.
Sometimes I even think, was she really into me or just using me or needed me until I was able to provide.
30M from India. Ex left me after moving to Ireland and now I feel stuck in life.
I’m a 30-year-old guy from India, working in an MNC in a managerial position with a decent salary and stable career.
My ex and I were together for 3 years, and before that we were friends for 1 year. Overall, we had a genuinely good relationship. There were a few things in her behavior that bothered me at times, but I ignored them because I loved her and believed nobody is perfect. I accepted her with her flaws, just like I expected someone to accept mine.
Even before we got into the relationship, she had planned to move to Ireland for her master’s degree. We had discussed this properly and decided that she would go first, settle down, and then after a year I would join her on a spouse visa after marriage.
While she was still in India, I often asked if she had researched the spouse visa process or spoken to her sister (who already lives in Ireland). She would always say, “I’ll do the research once I reach there.” I trusted her completely.
I supported her in every possible way — emotionally, financially, and throughout her visa process.
When she first moved to Ireland, things were okay. She struggled initially and would panic a lot. I used to spend hours on calls calming her down. I would stay awake till late at night just to talk to her and make sure she felt okay.
But after around 4 months, her behavior slowly changed.
She stopped calling me. Whenever I called, she sounded distant. Earlier she used to constantly say “I love you,” but suddenly that disappeared too. I ignored it, thinking maybe she was stressed in a new country.
Then one day, her Semester 2 result came and she failed one subject and had to do a resit. I supported her emotionally through that as well.
Around that time, she asked me: “What have you thought about the future?”
I said: “Nothing has changed. We’ll get married next year.”
She replied: “It’ll take time for me.”
I asked: “How much time?”
She said: “2-3 years.”
That completely shocked me.
I told her I couldn’t wait another 2-3 years for marriage because:
Our parents are getting older
We had already been together for 3 years
I genuinely wanted to build a life with her
Then suddenly she said: “I want to break up.”
I tried everything possible to save the relationship. I kept telling her that a breakup is not the solution and that we should discuss things properly.
Then she said: “You are not here.”
So I immediately started preparing to come to Ireland myself on a student visa.
But by then, it felt like she had already mentally checked out of the relationship.
For the next 4 months, I kept trying to save us. Every single day I tried convincing her not to destroy something good because of temporary struggles.
At one point, I even went to her parents’ house and spoke to them. Nothing was hidden between our families. Her parents genuinely liked me. Since both their daughters were in Ireland, I used to help and take care of them here in India. They treated me like a son-in-law already.
But her responses became confusing and emotionally exhausting.
Sometimes she would say: “Come to Ireland, I’m waiting.”
Then another day: “Don’t come. There’s too much struggle here.”
Then one day: “I cheated on you.”
And the stupid part is… instead of leaving after hearing that, I was trying to console HER and save the relationship.
I kept thinking maybe she was stressed, confused, depressed, overwhelmed — anything except that she genuinely wanted to leave.
Then she started saying things like:
“I don’t want to marry you.”
“Why are you forcing this?”
“Even if I marry you, I’ll ruin your life.”
“You’ll never be happy with me.”
“I’m not the right person for you.”
“Don’t leave your mom and come here.”
“I don’t want to come back to India.”
I kept telling her: “We can build a life together anywhere. Partner should matter more than temporary struggles.”
But nothing worked.
Now she has blocked me everywhere.
And honestly, what hurts the most is not even the breakup itself.
It’s the feeling that she moved ahead in life while I feel completely stuck.
Objectively, my life is not bad:
decent salary
stable career
supportive family
But internally I feel like a loser because I trusted someone so deeply and still lost everything.
Now I don’t even know what I want anymore.
Part of me thinks maybe I should still move abroad — maybe Ireland or the Netherlands (my brother lives there). Another part of me feels like I’m making decisions emotionally because she left.
And the weirdest thing?
Even today, despite everything, I still visit her parents because they’re alone here and have nobody to help them.
I genuinely don’t know if I’m moving on… or just unable to let go. also, now i m feeling guilty that I am not able to help her or provide her anything while she is struggling abroad.
Sometimes I think is she the one ,with whom I spent 4 years, how can she do this to me, leaving me at such middle age, cross over in a confused state of mind.
Sometimes I even think, was she really into me or just using me or needed me until I was able to provide.
I see that too many people are waiting for stamp 1g Extension. So does that mean they get the opportunity to stay for more than 2 years ? Considering that wait time is more than 6 months?
For ex. If my Stamp 1G is expiring on dec-2026 and i applied in sep-2026. Can I stay until the decision comes even beyond Dec?