u/MorningSalt5353

Difference Between Being Demisexual & Just Wanting A Strong Emotional Connection Before Sex?

From what I’ve heard, there’s a difference between the two.

What I mean is, I find people attractive; like I think sexually attractive but I don’t want to have sex until I have a strong connection. Not even like “you’re hot but I want to wait until we have a connection”, it’s rather I find them cute/hot but absolutely don’t want sex until there’s a connection.

I think there’s a possibility I’m demisexual but I’m a little confused at the term “sexually attractive”. I think I find someone sexy but if I have sex before there’s a strong connection, I mostly just feel like I have to, for lack of a better term.

Can someone who’s demisexual explain the clear difference between finding someone hot but not being sexually attracted to them until there’s a strong connection and finding someone hot but not wanting sex until there’s a strong connection?

I feel like it’s a dumb question but I really don’t know the difference.

It reminds me of aphantasia. I can’t see images in my mind and for a large portion of my life I thought when people said “imagine an apple…” they were being metaphorical until I found out people actually could.

I don’t know if there’s actually a difference between me and people wanting sex more after a strong connection or if I’m confused.

Sorry if a lot of posts are the same. I looked a bit and couldn’t find one similar but I probably just didn’t look hard enough.

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u/MorningSalt5353 — 10 hours ago