u/Moist_Chicken_7666

I’ll be in Tulum with a group of 8 ladies end of this month and we are looking for some fun parties, good music, and to dance.

People have recommended Gitano for Friday and Ilios for Saturday but we’re really not the sparklers/spectacle types - and both seem like they are bottle service/sparklers/rich white kids on vacation with their parents crowd type places. We just want a good dj and good crowd ! Doesn’t need to be pretentious.

Any specific recommendations that weekend? We have Friday, Saturday, and Sunday (full moon) to go out and will probably end up doing 2/3 nights.

We’re hiring a new full-service planner for our smaller BBB ~$120K/60 person destination wedding after parting ways with our previous planner... We already booked the venue and several major vendors ourselves, so this planner is primarily handling design, logistics, sourcing, production, and coordination. Not the destination is somewhere that making payments ourselves could prove difficult  

One important detail: the planner acts as the intermediary for most local vendors. We pay the planner directly, and they then source, contract with, and pay vendors on our behalf rather than us contracting directly with vendors ourselves.

We understand why this structure exists for destination weddings, but because significant funds and vendor relationships are centralized through the planner, we’re trying to negotiate a few contract points before signing:

• payment timing before final vendor selections/budget are locked

• transparency around how funds are allocated and what is actually non-refundable

• what happens to recoverable vendor credits/funds in a postponement scenario

• continuity/access to vendors if either side terminates mid-process

• a broad conduct clause allowing the planner to immediately cease services based on guest behavior

For those who’ve hired a full-service planner for a similar budget destination wedding:

• Were you able to negotiate planner contract terms?

• What was considered reasonable pushback?

• Did you have direct visibility into vendor contracts/payments?

Would especially love insight from anyone whose planner acted as the vendor/payment intermediary rather than a traditional coordinator.

Thank youuu!

Looking to buy a tuxedo with relaxed trousers online - can be MTM or RTW - but I won’t be able to go in person/try on beforehand. I loathe a slim trousers and am looking for relaxed or wide leg look on the bottom. Something still classic color-wise, but can push fashion forward. Todd Snyder has good options for the relaxed pant style, but I’ve read mixed reviews about their suits on here. Again, must be able to buy this online without an in person consultation.

I checked Proper Cloth and Husbands already - Husbands had the pant style I’m looking for with the matching jacket but completely sold out. Any other leads?

Hi ladies (and gents if you’re out there!)

Very long story short - we had to fire our wedding planner and we’re 5 months out from our wedding date (fml). Our venue is a boutique hotel and they’re providing all food & bev, and they’ve told us (repeatedly!) that we don’t need a separate planner because they can “do everything for us custom”. We know they’re super strong on the F&B side, but most of the weddings and events they’ve done are a very specific style, that is not our vibe at all.

We’re considering hiring someone to just help us with the styling & design aspects, and wondering if anyone else has done this?!

If you have, what was your experience and did you find it was worth it? Would love to also get a sense as to what others have paid, as my only point of comparison is with full wedding planners. For context, our total wedding budget is around $100k for 70 guests and it’s a destination wedding in area with a saturated area that’s a sort of popular-Europe destination wedding location.

Tysm.