Boundaries vs Vetos
When does having a boundary cross a line and become a veto power in RA relationships?
This has been a topic of conversation my partner, metas, and I are all having right now, and I'm curious about other people's perspectives.
Equitable relationships and the right to say "no that doesn't work for me" is very important to all of us.
I find the line can get blurrier when there's been established plans, and then they get canceled because the other partner has changed their mind on how those plans make them feel. We should be able to process and change our minds about things, but also we gotta respect the couple who had an ok on their plans and are now being asked to cancel them. This scenario hasn't happened in this polycule, but it has in past one's.
What are your experiences with navigating boundaries vs Veto power? How do you distinguish the line between the two?