I (15f) have an older cousin who’s in her 20s! she’s pretty different from me, she’s impulsive, drinks, smokes, party! my family often sees her as irresponsible!I used to try and vent to her, but I don’t anymore because her advice was always the extreme option and when I didn’t want to take it she would get mad and ghost me and say she’s wasting her time. She apologized for it which is fine, but I’ve learned my lesson.
Anyways my cousin specifically always hold me to weird standard, because I was bossy at like 5 and to her I’m always going to be like that.
The first incident was when my aunt bought me and my brother food. I was waiting for a good time to say thank you without making it weird (I don’t know why I’m like this but I am) And so when we got home I just blurted Thank you in the worst moment possible. It was a funny story and it was a good moment but my cousin kind of ruined it. She was saying that she thought I was never going to say thank you and how it took me so long to say thank you. I was like okay? Not that deep but okay.
Then recently I asked her for ice cream because I saw something in the fridge and she was like “Yes spoiled girl. "And when I said I’m not spoiled she was like “Yes you are.” I’m spoiled for asking for Ice cream.
The irony is real; my aunt has a stable job in a nice house and nice cars. She allows her kids the safety net to stay at her house without paying rent, she helps them with things, and she even bought my cousin a car... Again! Even though all my aunts' kids are grown-upss she allows them to stay with her! If my mom was like that to me, I would be so nice and respectful to her. But my cousin’s aren't, they get attitudes, talk to her any kind of way, and is kind of mean to her. Acts like she gets on their nerves when It’s her house. I think it’s a bit hypocritical to call me spoiled or make me sound bratty. Because one I told beg them to buy me anything, I say yes ma’am and no ma’am to even my cousins that are just like 5 years older than me.
I say please and thank you. They’re well aware of how I was raised and often make jokes about how they forget me and my brother are even in the house because of how quiet we are, or joke about how me and my brother seem afraid to ask for things or need permission “to breathe”.
How do I go from being that to being spoiled? Maybe I am overreacting but it’s very annoying! It’s like she doesn’t get that she also is spoiled, because arcording to her the family treats her so bad and she’s such an outsider.
So AIO for wanting her to stop? (Sorry for any mistakes I’m at school)