The thought of Akhirah is terrifying
Before anyone make presumptions, I'd like to clarify that the title is not in reference to major sins or getting your bad deeds exposed. Mods please don't delete this pliss!!!
A little background: Ever since I moved out of my parents home I've felt so calm and thriving both mentally and physically. I realise that my quality of life improved much better when I became financially independent and was no longer dependent on my mom (my dad earned but mom decided how it was spent as he was working in a different country) and she treated us in the most miserly way to say the least while she spent lavishly on her jewellery and her clothes (looking back I feel like she was a trophy wife) and she was/is emotionally manipulative.
Now my bitterness comes from the fact that now after my dad's retirement my mom started asking monthly allowance from my salary which I don't mind giving as long as I don't have to live with her anymore. And not to mention how she is the typical south asian mom who worships sons and hates daughters. But the idea that I will have to be answerable for my bitterness and indifference towards her in my afterlife in front of Allah and Allah would highlight her role as a mother to put me in jahannam scares me everyday.
Help me with some Islamic perspectives so my fear of Akhirah may be at ease. Jazakallah khair