are the imperfect kids just not out as much? imperfect as in i swear i only see perfect kids in the wild.
i am the mom of a level 1 (aka high functioning for those unfamiliar) autistic 3 year old. she can be super hard in certain ways and super easy in certain ways.
some of our biggest struggles are being out running errands and going places such as the grocery store, pharmacy, etc. thrift store in the cart while mom browses? never. she struggles to stay with me, go with the flow, and just understand all of the social underpinnings and routines of these contexts. really struggles with waiting. i have hope that with practice she will be much more successful in the future.
all that to say i swear i read so much about kiddos on here (reddit) that struggle in similar ways. tantrums at the grocery store, screaming in the car, impatient, on edge, not listening, etc. the thing is I NEVER SEE THESE KIDS IN THE WILD.
i really don’t. i always see cooperative compliant happy kids, glad to be out doing whatever their grownup is doing. trust me i’m looking for them and i don’t see them! i also work one day a week at a friend's coffee shop and the way these 2 and 3 year olds act just leaves me with my jaw hanging on my floor every time. never really once seen a kid have a hard time where i work.
is the universe keeping me from these children or is it really as simple as tough kids don’t go out as much because the parents are less inclined to bring them in tow. because i know that is my kid. please someone give me some insight here.