Where to get good marriage advice as a man?
My marriage is not in a good place and it is putting a lot of strain on both of us. I am in therapy but it only feels like just enough. I try to look for advice, support and discussion online but it ends up making me feel worse. Advice doesn't seem to value the male perspective.
I tend to find advice falls into 3 major categories: written for women, male focussed but written to manipulate men (manoshpere type stuff or using gender as a sales pitch) and "have you considered jesus". I'm not religious and I feel like all three tend to focus on what is wrong with men in general (especially the male focussed stuff). The general advice also doesn't line up with my experience.
I'm not trying to avoid my own accountability. However, when I'm getting lashed out at I don't want to end up feeling like I should take on more and more blame. I already tend to do that without bad advice, hence the feeling worse. I could just stop looking for advice, but I feel like I need some.
Anyone got good resources?