u/MeringueKitchen2511

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I used to be a very open person, shared food and drinks with everyone. The transmission rates are pretty high for me rn cause I just contracted it last month. It says I can be shedding up to 30% of the days during the first year, it terrifies me. I got it from simply kissing a girl who had no visible sores so the whole talk of only worrying during an outbreak doesn't work for me.

I've been seeing supportive comments but also people who don't have it and are terrified with it wanting as much distance from it as possible. And I understand, before I had it I would be terrified as well but I didn't even know anything. The sex Ed at school didn't even talk about common stds or stis only taught to use protection and guess what, many can be transmitted just by sharing utensils. I've even seen that people with hsv1 are 80% more likely to get alzheimers later in life, this is from recent studies done in 2025 so even tho lots of people have it, it doesn't make it less serious unfortunately.

I will first just try to avoid sharing as much as possible but it might raise questions since that's not who I used to be, and I will probably have to tell them. Does anyone has experience with this?

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u/MeringueKitchen2511 — 7 days ago
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Hi, I'm new to this, only recently I got diagnosed. It's been a bit over a month now since it first showed up. It might be taking longer to heal because my doctor didn't think it was HSV1 in the beginning and only gave me antibiotics to take for 7 days, but just in case he gave me an antiviral to take for 2 days as well. I took both and they did not help at all back then. 3 weeks later it calmed down and the sores are flat now but the area is still red and will not heal. It's been almost a week of no progress and I'm not sure what to do. I grabbed another prescription and I'm taking the antiviral again but I don't know if that's the right thing. My doctor told me to "just wait it out" but I've been waiting it out for over a month now. Is it normal for it to last this long? Any ideas why it isn't healing? I've been mostly home so no sun exposure, I have been eating well especially after finding out I have this, always putting vaseline on it, etc. As far as I know I've been doing everything right.

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u/MeringueKitchen2511 — 9 days ago
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Long story short, I kissed a girl about a month ago and then 5 days later got a cold sore. I've been broken up with my ex for many months now and right when I decide to give things a shot with someone new this happens hahaha so lucky!! When we kissed, she had a cold (flu probably) but I never saw anything on her lips. I've had 2 partners before and we always kissed while we were sick so I never even thought that could be a problem. That day, I didn't think twice about it. I had no clue these things could be transmitted so easily. We kissed twice, first 5 days before I got the sore and then 2 days after that so 3 days before the sore. I have not told her yet because I only got the results to the swabs very recently and feel like my world has been turned upside down. I feel like I will never be able to have a normal love/sex life again, Im gonna have to worry about ever giving head to another woman now. As a gay woman that was something I had really enjoyed with my previous partners but I'm swearing myself to celibacy now hahahaha I've been reading a lot online and dental dams don't seem appealing to anyone, and surely HSV1 sounds even less appealing and I wouldn't dare to ever not tell someone I might kiss about it. So I will probably never kiss again unless they are also positive, but so few people know that they have. Any advices from people who have it and manage to still date? I will probably break things off with the girl because even though she definitely did not know she had it, that is all I think about now when I think about her. The outbreak I had was terrible, truly bad and I'm still healing. Can't get past that. Would hate to give this to anyone else. Yay single life forever? Help

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u/MeringueKitchen2511 — 9 days ago