My family, at least whenever we go to visit my auntie's my mom and one of my auntie's talk about celebrating the death of family memmbers who died. I don't understand why or how to respond or react. My auntie to lost her husband to cancer started talking to me about how sad she was and I didn't know what to do or say. This happens to me a lot because they always talk about celebrating anneverseries, birthday's, etc. of family members who have died and I just don't understand why. I was close with the family members who died but I never cried or anything like my family members did.
I even asked my dad last night when I ot home why they talk about it and want to celebrate and he tried to explain it to me but I still didn't get it. Then I asked my mum today and she said my auntie wanted to vent but that wasn't my question nor did it help me understand. I'm just confused, can anyone either explain or help me explain to my family that I need help understanding? I don't know what to say or do.