Hi Reddit.
Going to give some context before I talk about what’s in my brain. I was raised by my father. He raised me all alone. We’ve always had such a strong relationship. He was my rock up until I was 20 years old when he met his current girlfriend, I’ll name her Maria. I am 29 now. We’ve kept in touch here and there but recently Maria blocked me on everything off his accounts and number… How do I know? She’s blocked everyone off his accounts and numbers, including my sisters. I’ve seen messages between Maria and my sister’s mom stopping all child support from my dad and Maria telling them to basically go “eff themselves.” I’ve seen messages from my dad’s account telling my sisters mom he’s not paying child support. I know it’s her because she definitely used Google Translate to talk to her. (We are Filipino, Maria is not and the dialect she used was 100% wrong.) And I know my dad. He’s not the same dad that raised me.. My dad is a very family oriented man.
Maria and I never got along. When I was 20 years old. I recently went through a break up and it was just my 1 year old daughter and I and my dad took us in until I got back up on my feet. My daughter and I were cooped up in the master bedroom for a couple months. I went to work. She was in daycare so we weren’t ever really home. The only time I was around the house was when I cooked for my daughter and I. And I always cleaned after myself. And out of the blue my dad kicked out my daughter and I, and I knew deep down it wasn’t him. I knew it was Maria. Because when he did it, she was smiling behind him. And I could see it in my dad’s eyes he didn’t want to.
My daughter and I couch surfed for a year at my aunts house, friends houses.. That was the lowest point in my life. During that time my dad did keep in touch… Right then and there I knew it wasn’t him wanting to kick me out.
Before I go into too much detail. I know she is a toxic woman. I know she’s a vile human. And I know I can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped.
I found I was unblocked from Facebook. I want to reach out but I know she has access to his Facebook. As much as my dad has let me down for almost 10 years, that doesn’t change that fact that he raised me and I wouldn’t be the strong and resilient woman I am today without him… but at the same time. It’s my day. And honestly don’t want the drama. I’m tired of it.. but walking down the aisle alone breaks my heart thinking of it. It was initially supposed to be my fiancées father.. but he passed away from cancer that took him away from us in a matter of weeks since he was diagnosed.
I just wanted some opinions. And not sure if it’s wanting validation, maybe it is, I don’t know. But to know if it’s okay to just walk away. I just know in my heart, whether he does walk me down the aisle or not. It’s still going to break my heart.