u/Mental-Advantage-711

I’m starting at UMKC soon and I live in the same city so yeah I could just commute, but I really wanna live on campus. Problem is my dad is super strict and doesn’t really trust me, and we don’t really have a good relationship (we never talk). Even bringing up the fact that I’m 18 and should have some independence would honestly just make him mad. My younger brother (15) is allowed to work, but me and my sisters aren’t, which makes it even more frustrating. My older sister is 20 and she’s never dormed or had a job either, so I feel like there’s already this expectation that I’m supposed to just stay home too. My mom is more chill but she usually just agrees with him. So I already know if I just ask “can I dorm” he’s gonna say no right away. My plan rn is to find a program or scholarship at UMKC that requires (or at least strongly pushes) living on campus, and then bring that to him like it’s more of an academic opportunity instead of just me wanting to move out. I’d also explain that dorms aren’t just freedom, like there’s rules, security, etc. I’m mainly wondering if anyone has tried doing it this way with strict parents and if it actually worked or just made things worse. Also not sure if it’s smarter to talk to him first or just come to him with a full plan like this. I’m trying to be realistic bc I know how he is, so any advice helps