Is this normal pacing between busy single parents or is he pulling back?
32F seeing a 36M from Hinge for about a month now and I need honest perspective because I can’t tell if I’m anxious or if something shifted.
We’ve only had 3 dates in a month, but it’s mostly been because we both have kids and opposite custody schedules. There was also supposed to be another date that I had to cancel because I got sick, and instead of letting it die he immediately rescheduled by taking me out to lunch near my job during my work break, which honestly made me feel like he was genuinely intentional/interested.
Overall he’s been consistent. Usually reaches out first, plans dates, affectionate in person, etc. We also already made plans for this Friday and Saturday the last time we talked.
But now I haven’t heard from him since Sunday night and it’s Tuesday night, which is making me spiral a little because this is the first longer gap we’ve had.
For context, I’ve never texted him first once. Not in a manipulative way, I just wanted to feel out consistency/initiative before fully opening up emotionally because I actually like him.
So now my brain is basically like:
- if we already had plans for this weekend, why go quiet?
- is he waiting for me to initiate now?
- is this just normal busy adult behavior?
- or is this the beginning of someone slowly pulling back?
Would love honest opinions from people who’ve dated as busy adults/parents because I genuinely can’t tell if I’m overthinking or picking up on a vibe shift.