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I swear my baby saves all his joy for 3 AM 😅

More context: First time mom, exclusively pumping because my letdown was too strong for baby boy.

During the day it feels like he’s constantly uncomfortable — straining, grunting, trying to pass gas or poop. We’re doing everything we can think of: bicycle legs, tummy massages, burping, different positions… and it just feels nonstop. He’s either fussing or fighting his little body all day long. We’ve done the gas drops, gripe water, and probiotics. I don’t see a difference and the probiotics almost seemed to make things worse for him…

He doesn’t have any sort of rash and there’s no blood in his stool, so I don’t think it’s anything like that, which almost makes it more confusing.

The only times he seems truly content are when he’s asleep… or randomly during his 3 AM feed. Like clockwork, he wakes up, eats, and suddenly he’s this completely different baby — smiling, cooing, relaxed, just happy to exist. It’s honestly the sweetest thing, but also so confusing.

I feel like I’m missing something or not helping him enough during the day. Is this just a phase? Gas? Normal newborn digestive stuff? Has anyone else had a baby who seemed miserable all day but magically happy in the middle of the night?

I just want to help him feel comfortable 😭

Is anyone else absolutely terrified of their baby sleeping too long at night?

My little guy just turned 6 weeks last Friday and he’s already a great sleeper… almost too great. If I let him, I genuinely think he’d sleep straight through the night. But I can’t seem to let that happen because I wake up in a full panic if it’s been more than 4 hours. I end up waking him to feed, and he just clonks right back out like nothing even happened.

For context, he’s a healthy weight (around 12 lbs), growing well, and has had no issues so far. During the day he eats regularly and everything seems totally normal.

But nighttime is a different story for me mentally.

I have him in a bassinet right next to our bed, and even though he’s safely in there, I keep waking up in a panic thinking I somehow moved him into the bed in my sleep. I’ll have these half-asleep moments where I’m convinced he’s between me and my partner, or that he fell into some imaginary gap between the bed and the bassinet, or got tangled in blankets… even though none of that is actually happening.

It’s like my brain just won’t let me relax.

I feel torn because on one hand, I know sleep is good and babies will sleep when they need to. On the other hand, I’m constantly worried I’m doing something wrong by not waking him, or that something could happen if I let him go too long.

Has anyone else gone through this?
Did you keep waking to feed at this age, or let your baby sleep?
And maybe more importantly… how do you deal with the anxiety that comes with it?

I feel like I should be grateful for a good sleeper, but instead I’m just stressed all night.