u/Medical-Basil-554

I have been going on lots of dates since the start of the year but I think I’m getting a little exhausted by dating especially app dating. I just think turning up to see someone who looks nice and you are attracted to isn’t playing out on paper into the way I think it is.

Like I’ll see them in person it’s nice we’ve got chemistry, we kiss, we go to messages and it feels flat, like even I don’t feel excited. I sometimes will find that one person who just lights me up but then I get more nervous than usual and I fumble it. I think about and I feel like if I had met this person outside of a dating app then we would have gotten along and something would have come of this.

Does anyone else feel this? If so how do you deal with it?

So I’ve been on 2 dates with someone I’m seeing. She was lovely and friendly on the first date, I was honestly a bit surprised we kissed on the first date.

She’s actually kinda right for me, similar hobbies, open with questions, I think I did kick myself a few times that I didn’t hold her hand more during the second date. I don’t find myself awkward on dates I feel pretty confident on dating but she’s been a tough person to read. Like she takes time to open up and maybe she’s a little awkward but I like that about her, I’ve been there myself so I’m not put off by shyness and awkwardness. But I’m probably overthinking a little.

End of the latest date a few days ago we misread each other, hug vs kiss, and it became awkward. I was open to the kiss but she said she’ll just head off now. This happened before for me once on another date but normally we just laugh it off and try again.

I’m attracted to her but I feel like this moment might have sealed my fate. I went home feeling a bit daft. Like I’m kinda questioning everything I’ve done on all our dates. I can be romantic and lead, but I’m also going off of her vibe. I think lately with how stressed I’ve been at work I’ve not been able to get into the rhythm of things and she might be the right person at the wrong time.

I don’t know kinda where to go from here. I feel like I’d be confident on another date especially if it’s in something that I’m passionate about and is a quieter vibe that we both would be able to find easy.

Also thinking that it’s pretty much over though as well, this is kinda my thoughts on modern dating now, that people make their minds up usually within the first 2-3 dates and it’s over. The whole ending of the last was so sloppy that i can’t recover. Can I recover from it?

Edit: I did make a joke of it in messages and I think she found it funny. Maybe the real question here is aligning on emotional vulnerability. I open up about how I feel, what makes me passionate, what has shaped my experience, I think she might be a little more closed off. Which is fine but how do I make her comfortable while still being able to be myself?