How can I support her?
I’ve been in a relationship with my partner for 5 1/2 years. It’s been up and down and up and down down down. Everytime she splits I’m the bad guy. Everyone is. Nobody cares about her. The world sucks. What do I do in these moments. The moments when everything is my fault and everything is the world’s fault. I ask if she wants space or to be alone. Sometimes she does. Other times I’m tested. If I go to work or do errands I don’t care. If I stay I don’t support her the right way. I say the wrong things. I try to hold her. Tell her everything will be ok. But throughout the years there’s been the same fight. The same circle. I need to grow up and she’s right I do. I try to not neglect her. I try to help her but I don’t. I don’t want to go into details but essentially she has resentment towards me so we lack a physical and intimate relationship. I try to initiate things and be spontaneous but it does help. She doesn’t want me to touch her. It caused huge problems performance wise that I’m working on.
So please anyone reading.
When you’re splitting what do you need. What do you want. When you just need to get out of the house and escape where do you go. What do you and your partners do. I try to come up with ideas but she doesn’t want to or they’re lame. Or we do the same thing. Everyday is the same. How do I change everyday so she can have a normal life? What can I do to provide and support her?
Please dm me if you can actually help me. Idk where else to turn.