Is it just men our age?
62F longtime divorced and it has taken me until now to realize that I don’t think ever in my life has a man I’ve dated ( or even the one I married) taken any notice or interest in something that “I” am interested in. I have always been the one to have to learn about HIS hobbies/interests. I learned to ski, I learned about rocks, I learned about firearms, and on and on, so that I could share in something that HE was interested in, but it NEVER went the other way around. This is true with men I’ve dated, even some man I just met at a volunteer event last week. He told me ALL about himself but never once asked any questions about the hobbies I said I had.
This was like a lightning bolt revelation for me - how many decades of my life have I wasted doing activities that were just because the man I was with at the time liked it? So sad. But is this just a thing with men in our age group, or do all men seem to be this self-centered?