I dated a woman for two months during which we went on eight dates after which she ended things with me. When she ended things she said all the usual stuff about not being able to commit to a relationship at the moment due to external factors. I took it as her not being interested enough but left the door open by saying ”if you ever want to meet again or talk about anything you can freely contact me anytime”.
This then led to a situationship type situation where she would contact me while we were both out drinking asking to meet and then regret it afterwards. She contacted me four times and the situation got quite messy and emotionally charged. I think some of her friends thought I was taking advantage of her while I felt like she was toying with my feelings. Eventually this culminated into her removing me on all social medias after which she stopped contacting me.
Three months later I walked into a bar and she was sitting there at a table with a friend. We both looked at eachother like a deer in headlights but after a while I managed to compose myself, nodded to her and walked past the table.
A little while later she came up to me and said ”I want to apologize to you” with audibly distressed tone (honestly the sadness in her voice melted me). I answered ”I want to apologize to you too as I don’t think I’ve acted perfectly”. We moved to a quieter corner where we caught up a little about what we’ve been up to during the past few months. She also explained that she removed me on social medias because of how much she shamed the situation and her actions. I answered that I didn’t take it personally and IMO the situation was unhealthy for everyone involved so it was probably good she did that. She agreed and she then had to leave with the friend.
I think I handled the latest interaction well but I actually still am open to exploring a relationship with her if she’s up for it so now I’m worried I may have been little too nonchalant during the latest interaction.
I’ve been thinking about sending her a message along the lines of “Hi, I wanted to say that I got a really good feeling when you came to apologize, and I also got to apologise. I didn’t have time to say it then because the conversation ended kind of quickly. I wanted you to know that I would still be open to seeing you if you’re up for it.”
Does that seem okay?