My gf had never been in a relationship. I'm her first real boyfriend. We have been dating for around 3 months and I am struggling to not feel jealousy from her best friend.
For some context they have known each other for around 10 years and she told me this guy used to have feelings for her. She said she rejected him and only sees him as a friend but she talks about him non-stop. They'll sometimes hang out one on one at her place and message a lot. This guy has a girlfriend and they have been together for 2 years but I've heard it's not going great.
There was a time when he stopped talking to her because she was about to start a relationship with another guy and she was really hurt she stopped talking to the guy she was dating. He also said he loved her when he was drunk one or two times.
Sometimes I'll organize stuff with friends like playing board games at my place and she'd invite him without even asking me first. She's done that twice and I said I'd tell her I didn't like it next time I see her but haven't had the chance.
I tried to befriend the guy by inviting him over another time to play some games but he didn't even open my message. At the same time she mentioned he had just texted her asking if she had plans that very same day I wanted to hang out.
I sometimes feel like she has me as a boyfriend just to feel what being in a relationship feels like. I'll say stuff like I miss you or I can't wait to hang out with you and she'll just respond back with I miss you too. She has never said it first. She is affectionate in person but I'm always the one initiating.
We do spent a lot of time together and she does prioritize me when having dates and plans. She's very considerate with including me to almost all her plans. I've met a bunch of her friends and last time she brought up the fact that I hadn't asked if I wanted her to be my gf so we made it official. So I feel conflicted in that area. I do like her and would like to make it work but I'm not sure how to communicate this.
I feel like she's on the autistic spectrum a tiny bit also.