In February, my friend (Jessica) asked me if I (23M) would be down to go to Thailand. She asked if I would want to go on this trip and invite the rest of the friend group. Before she asked me, she had already messaged others in our friend group to gauge interest, but other people didn’t seem too keen. Even though nothing was booked, it seemed like at least us two were down to go. We were talking about potential months to travel, and Jessica was ready to plan itinerary and schedules.
Jessica really wants to go to Thailand and made it known to our friend group because she had been talking about going since last year. Eventually, one other friend we were talking to (Ava) said she was down to come with us, but she definitely wasn’t as invested as Jessica.
However last year, I went on a trip with some of my friends in the same friend group (not Jessica or Ava). We’re all very tight and I’m definitely closer with them. Since we’ve travelled together before, we eventually got on the topic of going on another trip, and Thailand was mentioned, but we were planning to go with just us (excluding Ava and Jessica).
I felt bad about planning this with my smaller group of friends instead of with Jessica and Ava, so I recently messaged Jessica and told her that I was planning to travel with the other friends instead. When I asked if we should extend the invite to Jessica, one of my friends said that inviting another person would mean that we have to extend the invite to everyone in our friend group, and that would make the trip harder to organise and plan.
When I told her, Jessica seemed shocked and upset and seemed to want an invite, but I’m not sure what to do. I don’t think Ava still wants to go, but it’s obvious Jessica would like to join. At this point, my smaller group of friends have already bought plane tickets. So, AITJ for planning to go on a trip with my friends and then changing my mind to go with a closer group of friends?