AITAH if I don’t want to share a Mothers Day celebration with my MIL?
Context - I’ve been with my husband for 12 years, married for almost 6. My MIL has always been an issue. The loudest opinions, the rude comments, etc. this whole time, I’ve dealt with it cause they’re his family (he hates it all, too). We started IVF last year and just prior to it his mom had said if I can’t get pregnant naturally, then I wasn’t meant to be a mom. We thankfully got pregnant via our first transfer last April and throughout my entire pregnancy it was weekly arguments. What we should/shouldnt do or buy for the baby, we were “fear mongering” cause my brother got us an owlet. Skip to halfway through pregnancy when she asked I wanted them at the hospital (they live 30 mins away) .. I was going to have a planned c section so I said I didn’t want anyone waiting at the hospital cause then id feel rushed for everyone to meet her after having major surgery and going through so much to finally have her. Day of c-section, husband checks their location and they’re driving around the city we’re delivering in FOUR HOURS before scheduled surgery.. I had a postpartum hemorrhage following my c section so we didn’t get to maternity ward for 4 more hours and they waited. (If that doesn’t give you context idk what does LOL)
Ever since the baby has come, it’s still weekly arguments since we’ve been saying we need boundaries of when to ask to come see her, planning ahead and respecting our choices instead of making snide remarks everytime. It’s so draining especially now that we’re 4 months in after her having colic and now not sleeping anywhere but onus. We’re EXHAUSTED and she makes it all about her lolol “we won’t have a relationship with the baby cause you won’t bring her out here”, “if I babysit, can I take her out to the house?” “Why won’t you let me take her anywhere?” “Why can’t we just stop by if we’re near?” “She’ll sleep when she’s tired” “do you guys still burp her” (again, she’s only JUST turned 4 months old” lmao.
Anyway, AITAH for not wanting to share Mother’s Day activities with my MIL who causes so much emotional stress when this is my first Mother’s Day? I know she’ll freak out and say how ungrateful we are and yada yada but anyone who wants access to my daughter should be respectful of me and my husband, no?!
Please say I’m not the only one with a toxic MIL who gets WORSE when a baby comes?! 😂